Solutions.. to get rid of Emotional Crisis

How to get rid of Emotional Crisis?

In my last blog I have described my view on what is emotional crisis? How does it happen? What are the effects of Emotional Crisis? You can read about it from this link ­­­­­­– Crisis - You can get rid of..

 Now that we know the importance of dealing with Emotional Crisis I would like to bring you few points to work on. Some of them may sound stupid and ridiculous but trust me bring them to part of your life and you shall see the sun shine entering your life.

 Solutions of Emotional Crisis are quiet very simple as I have said earlier and you may ignore them but I would request you to follow them for just 1 month and observe the change. The Solutions are as mentioned below:

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1)      Forgive Yourself and Forgive Others:

1^st and most important rule to start over is to forgive your-self and forgive others. In today’s world what hauls all the people are self-criticism, cursing oneself and grief. Why do we criticize ourselves or curse ourselves? When we have repeated failures and mistake our loved one and other people criticize us with a good intention to help us realize our mistake and improve. But instead of realizing the mistake, most of us take it in a wrong way and consider ourselves good for nothing and a bad person. We start to criticize ourselves for being such a waste. Grief of having to be such a bad person hauls the person till grave.

                The only way to come out of this is to forgive yourself. Forgive others who spoke those words to you their intentions was only to help you grow. You have to understand the right way to perform better, the way that suits you. Find those distractions and caste them away, rather I would suggest to utilizes them as rewards for your hard work. For example when I was a school going kid I had a rough time with my studies. I was very fond of watching television and that being a distraction I could never focus on my studies. So my academic results were never appreciable. Some time I even struggled to clear my final exams to qualify for next year. So I was at times punished by my parents and at one particular time even I believed that I am good for nothing. Similarly it is a problem for many of us and I would like to help them. The solution is to identify the distraction or the root cause of failure and then converting your distraction into your motivation. For example since I am addicted to watching television I cannot simply turn away from watching TV. Instead What I can do is set a goal of today’s work and declare that once I am done with today’s work only then I will watch TV. Or fix a certain amount of time to watch television before you start your work and then you finish the work and later you are free to do whatever you wish. This way you will be self-motivated to finish the work. You will ultimately use your short falls as a tool and power to grow and improve yourself. It’s never too late to start again, start with forgiving yourself for your past behavior and methods of working and also forgive others as their intentions were only to improve you. Find your distractions and use them as power to grow.

 

2)      Don’t fight back the negative thoughts:

It is known to everyone that the more you try to fight or avoid the negative thoughts the more your mind will be focused on them and will not help you come out of them instead you will end up doing more of what you wanted to avoid. That feeling of failure will destroy you further.

The Best way is to accept the negative thoughts and guide your mind to correct path. For example say I am in office and I have a thought of not working today. So rather than forcing yourself to work and cursing yourself for such a lazy and irresponsible attitude what you can do is just take a short break  for cup of coffee or small dose of sweet. This shall lift your spirit up for few more hours of the day. Or you can do is put a goal to finish the most urgent work and then you will throw yourself a small treat. This will be a more productive way of improving yourself while handling negative thoughts.

 

3)      Give a Treat to Yourself :

Whenever you attain success or achieve something your Family, Friends and colleagues asks for a treat. But the actual person who deserves a treat is you – yourself. Always remember to share your happiness with others and yourself. We never ask ourselves for a treat. So for now on make a rule to treat yourself for all the good reasons you have. Treat need not be a big feast but even a small chocolate or may be an ice cream shall do the trick for you. If the reason is big enough for a big bash then why not go for it. Self-appreciation will help you come out of self -pity, will help your mind to record your good work. Try to appreciate the efforts you put to keep things on place instead of simply celebrating the rank. If you keep celebrating the efforts you will start to enjoy the process and ultimately you will do the things with your heart and outcome will come the way you want.

 

4)      Smile at yourself (this one is my best way, please try it):

Smile while you stand in front of a mirror, I know it sounds stupid and if others see you doing this I am sure they are gonna laugh at you. But trust me this really works. See our mind records what we see? What we feel? Our mind has recorded for a long time to be sad and frustrated. But when we start to smile at ourselves our mind starts to record that even you smile and slowly you’ll see magic happening in your life. To add more to this appreciate what’s good in you while you stand in front of the mirror and say that you are proud of your efforts to improve yourself.

 

5)      LOL :

You got it – Laugh out louder. These day’s people use them to express that they can’t control their laughter only on social messaging apps. But in reality they are only forcing a smile on their face. If you could actually laugh out louder then you will definitely turn the stone. Laughter helps your mind to release positive hormones and your body will start to recover from all mental and physical illness. Power of resonance: your laughter will be like hitting a stone in a still lake likewise a loud laughter will bring the waves to change of mental condition and repeated act will definitely break the ice.

 

 

 6)      Make fun of Yourself and Enjoy it :

        First understand why yourself, if you make fun of others then you may upset a friend or relative not everyone take it as a joke. Instead if you make fun of yourself you are definitely not gonna hurt anyone else. Secondly our mind filled with anger, worries, fear and ego. When we make fun of ourselves the first thing that leaves our mind is Ego. When you laugh at yourself all the anger, worries and fear that had accumulated within will start to melt away slowly. Soon you will realize the magic, your body will start responding to medicine you have been taking and at certain stage you will no longer need medicines.

7) Joy of Giving or sharing

        There is no other happiness bigger then joy of Giving and sharing. It doesn't require you to give away everything you have. Actually giving or sharing the small things with your loved ones or others who are in need gives you the moment to experience true Joy, Love and Happiness. I have a small article on this you can read about it by clicking this link Fat Shiny Nose

There are other methods as well like exercising in gym or may be a light walk in lawn, Meditation is a very good option as well. If your body supports your childishness within then sporting is ice breaking. Entertainment and amusement methods can be mood lifting for short while but supportive in building the momentum in improving your mental health.

 

Hope I can be of any help to you. There is an article on Mental pollution by Megha Jain I can be of some more light to understand and improve mental health, you can refer it by clicking this link    Mental Pollution

 

Thank You.